What is Polyamory?

In 11th grade I became extremely worried that something I was doing was wrong. I was hyper vigilant, anxious, and consistently ruminating. This all began because I was aware of the fact that I had not only begun to crush on, but fall in love with, two people at the same time.

As a freshly 17 year old who had been taught nothing but man+woman = marriage, it was hard to grasp the idea of having multiple interests.

Writing this now I feel at ease, I feel calm, and I feel comfortably queer and polyamorous. Then, not so much. 

Before I go on, you should know more about me: 

So what is polyamory? 

According to the Oxford dictionary, polyamory is the practice of engaging in multiple relationships with the consent of all. Although that definition is correct, what it misses is that polyamory can look differently depending on the person.

Polyamory is the act of engaging in multiple relationships AND in those relationships, polyamory: 

can be sexual and/or romantic 

can be configured differently in each relationship 

holds consent and ethical behavior as a priority 

does not use power/privilege over other partners 

is healthy and normal

isn’t the opposite of monogamy, it’s a relationship option

can be a lifestyle or a way of being 

Thankfully as a 25 year old, I have come to a space of being able to have multiple partners and organize my relationships to my desired structure. After years of practice and studying, I am now able to offer support to those who find themselves in my previous position. Recently, I created a 43 page workbook that covers several topics and intersections of non-monogamy geared to walk you through opening up (Find it discounted here)

It’s also okay to need a little more support. Whether alone or with your partner(s), I’d love to work with you at Love Heal Grow Counseling – Schedule an appointment with me today). I specialize in kink, BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex therapy.