Overlooked truths, surprising facts, and filling the gaps

What else should I know??!

Basic sex questions are often overlooked

but WHY?!

In the last 11 weeks, we have learned about a couple reasons: lack of access, misinformation, abstinence education, and colonialism. The thing is, when basic information is kept from us, it actually is much more pertinent to provide it. In some ways, providing that information becomes advanced care!

You may experience the shame-based silence through you omitting things, being curious, or endlessly googling so here I am going to centralize some basic (actually not so basic) information below. First and foremost, we must acknowledge that porn is not reality. Getting educated means reading and learning from real, science based sources like this article! 

Here’s a few fast facts to take away for week 11: 

There are 4 Types of lube?:

• Water-Based Lubricants: most common, ideal for sensitive skin; safe for use with all sex toys and latex condoms. Easy cleanup but fast drying.
• Silicone-Based Lubricants: Extremely slippery and lasts. Safe for latex condoms but damages silicone toys.
• Oil-Based Lubricants: Long-lasting & thick lubrication. Cannot be used with latex condoms; hard to clean.
• Hybrid Lubricants: Combination of ingredients; Can’t be used with some toyss

✨Different types of toys provide different sensations & can only be used with certain lubes! You find more info in this chart/ article: Investing in Your Pleasure

✨Arousal is not the same as desire, bodies change, adapt, and libido does too but pain is not normal!

• Arousal: the action or fact of arousing or being aroused
• Desire: wanting to engage with an act or thought 

✨ The Dual control model is a mechanism in your brain responsible for your “gas pedal” and “break pedal.” Meaning, it is responsible for finding a balance of stop/go in your desire. If your breaks are overwhelming then your desire won’t move forward with the gas. It includes spontaneous and responsive desire.

• A post summarizing dual control can be found here! 

Even if this information is new to you, you are not behind! There is no finish line and the only goal here is to increase your knowledge and therefore pleasure!

✨A few sex positive folks you can follow to continue on your journey:

Shan Boodram @shanboodram

Casey Tanner @queersextherapy

Ericka Hart @ihartericka

Jet Setting Jasmine @jetsettingjasmine

Dirty Lola @thedirtylola

Courtney Brame @onemichero

Evita Sawyers @lavitaloca34

Gabrielle Alexa Noel @gabalexa

Jhen (Monogamish )@themonogamishpod

Tatyannah King @tatyannahk

Marjani Lane @marjanilane

Lotus RopeWolf @lotusropewolf

Gabrielle Smith @iamgabrismith 

Zach Budd @zachbudd

Colby Agostinelli @sextherapywithcolby

Reba Thomas @rebathediva

Shamyra @sexologist​​Shamyra

Cady S. Moore @ageofsexploration

Jayda @Jayda_kissed

Ashley Cobb @sexwithashley

Mariah Caudillo @sexedfiles

Best of luck on your journey! & Don’t worry, Lifewflo has more coming too<3